Tuesday, December 25, 2007

Finding Hope During a Separation

One of many struggles that I had during my separation from my wife, was finding hope that our marriage could turn around.

Part of the struggle was that at first glance, most of the couples I knew in our church that had separated, had eventually divorced.

Fortunately over time with God's help I did find some in our congregation that I knew that had been separated or at least in a major marital crises and had recovered. That was hugely encouraging.

One time I was out of town visiting a men's breakfast, and just briefly mentioned my situation as a prayer concern, and a couple of men came forward afterwards and spent the day sharing their testimonies of their restored marriage.

Another day I went forward for an altar call at an out of town church, and the couple who prayed for me, had been through a major crises of their own and survived.

I was so thankful for these rays of hope.

Other places I found huge hope was the Reconciliation lesson that was part of Divorce Care and The Chosing Wisely Before You Divorce series Both of them had some awesome testimonies of marriages recovering from things such as adultery, domestic violence, etc.

I didn't know about them at the time, but the Braggs at Inverse Ministries, have a testimony of being separated by 12 years and 3000 miles. I think a video of their testimony is on their website and I have heard them in person and it is awesome.

Rejoice Ministries has an awesome testimony of Bob and Charlyne. They actually got divorced because of his affairs and then his wife was convicted by God to pray and fast for him, and they have been back together for years now. They have other testimonies on their website.

Joe and Michelle Williams with Reconciling God's way were married multiple times before each other then went through a separation of their own as Christians. Out of that trial they wrote the study "Reconciling God's Way" which is designed to be used if even only one spouse wants to save the marriage.

As I researched the possibilty of asking Sharon to a Retrouvaille conference, the intake person I was talking to shared her own testimony of going to a Retrouvaille a number of years ago with her husband while he was still having an affair. I was moved to tears as she shared about the turn in their marriage probably ten years ago.

All of these resources are listed on my Emergency Links section of this blog. With God all things are possible.

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